Urs

Hi Mom,

It's your urs (and you can cry if you want to)--one solar year since the day of your death.

Some of us went to Mass yesterday; others of us snuck in at the very end of Mass. We lit beeswax candles for you in the ...

Hi Mom,

It's your urs (and you can cry if you want to)--one solar year since the day of your death.

Some of us went to Mass yesterday; others of us snuck in at the very end of Mass. We lit beeswax candles for you in the Mary alcove, which glowed with soft amber light. We admired the altar flowers in your memory. Thankfully no chrysanthemums in the mix; some lovely camellias, gladiola, alstroemeria, and cedar fronds. I saw the statue of Saint James on the wall ("That's my last martyr/There on the wall...")--never before realized he carries a Taoist gourd-on-a-stick, what's up with that?!

We fortified ourselves with coffee, doughnuts, and the kindnesses of Father Ryan and John Simpson before heading to the cemetery. The time at Calvary was sunny and cold. Hope the conservatively Catholic dead weren't turning in their graves at the sound of the Mourner's Kaddish. Did you feel us dancing around your grave? Did you hear us reading your poetry?

The time at Volunteer Park was lovely. We ran into Diane and Marina at the Conservatory. The Mammillaria cacti are beginning to bloom, their small pastel flowers sprinkled delicately between stiff spines. The grandkids all played together, football and frisbee were tossed, the little ones climbed on the camels and Black Sun. Dad made it all the way up the water tower and back. I was terrified of getting stuck, but I made it through both holes of the bone sculpture. It felt like emerging from death's birth canal.

Ben's friend thinks the dead communicate with us "via electricity". This sounds very 19th-century somehow, an outdated theory from a time when electricity was not yet domesticated. Seems the latest pseudoscientific hope for communication from beyond the grave should mention something about string theory, at the least. But just in case, here's a message for you via electricity:

I hope you are deeply, radiantly suffused with the joy and communion you sought. I love you, Mom.

Your daughter,

Jenny

Posted by Jen (guest) on Mon 21 Feb 2011 12:43:10 PM PST

Love

Happy Valentine's Day, Mom! I love you deeply. -Alan

Posted by Alan Wong (guest) on Mon 14 Feb 2011 03:07:59 PM PST

Spirit side

Hi Mom. How have things been on the spirit side? Things here have been rough, with your yahrzeit coming up. In the past I've been able to separate my spiritual and rational sides, but now they're beginning to tussle. And faith was losing. But, I...

Hi Mom. How have things been on the spirit side? Things here have been rough, with your yahrzeit coming up. In the past I've been able to separate my spiritual and rational sides, but now they're beginning to tussle. And faith was losing. But, I realized today that even the act of using logic to analyze faith is begging the question. Yes, the circularity is partly faith's fault for being defined as what cannot be proven, but there it is. On the scales of reason, you cannot weigh faith without assuming it is weighable.

I remember you telling me once that I had been very sensitive spiritually as a child. Nowadays, I see myself scientifically; I'm a natural "cold reader", overly empathetic to other's unexpressed feelings, and thus cursed with a vulnerability. But a good friend today suggested that maybe the reason I'm struggling with faith of late is because it's time for me to "use my gift". I'm not quite sure what that means, but I think it starts with accepting that I have both a rational and a spirit side.

I love you a lot, Mom, and miss you terribly.

Ben

Posted by Ben (guest) on Thu 20 Jan 2011 04:15:18 PM PST

Missing you

Hi Mom, I've been missing you a lot recently. I don't know why it's hitting me harder just now. Maybe because I'm attempting to do the thing that you weren't able to before you died: write your final letter to the grandkids. I'm going to try to...

Hi Mom, I've been missing you a lot recently. I don't know why it's hitting me harder just now. Maybe because I'm attempting to do the thing that you weren't able to before you died: write your final letter to the grandkids. I'm going to try to explain to them who you were and how much you still love them, but my words are always so shabby and inadequate. I wish we had managed to sit down and get those letters written while you were alive, but I remember how even thinking about getting started made you cry. I think, as hard as it is for me to write, it would have been so much harder and more painful for you. I love you and miss you. --Ben

Posted by Ben (guest) on Wed 06 Oct 2010 11:49:30 PM PDT

Postcard from Ecuador

Dear Mom, I love you and miss you so much. I´m here in Quito, Ecuador and your presence is no further from me. I think of you often and this morning I felt the grief as strongly as the first day you were gone - I just sobbed and shook and called your...

Dear Mom, I love you and miss you so much. I´m here in Quito, Ecuador and your presence is no further from me. I think of you often and this morning I felt the grief as strongly as the first day you were gone - I just sobbed and shook and called your name. I do want to tell you what a beautiful time Devon and I are having in Ecuador. The last few days we were exploring Mindo, which is a subtropical cloud forest, full of hummingbirds, toucans, and butterflies. We hiked down to a waterfall, surrounded by green jungle and colorful plants. We sat and swam for hours, drinking in the sun and the life surrounding us. There were butterflies and towering plants all around. And I can´t help but think of you and want to share this with you. I haven´t been able to write a blog entry yet, and now I think perhaps it´s because I can´t really speak of myself, without first speaking of you or speaking to you. So, here is my first postcard from Ecuador - letting you know that I am safe, having an incredible time, and missing you. Love Always, Alan

Posted by Alan Wong (guest) on Thu 06 May 2010 10:55:18 AM PDT

With deepest respect for Lisa and her entire family

I've been looking at the slide show for over an hour — grinning to beat the band until the last few pictures and now feeling such sadness, such love and respect for you all as a family. I honor Lisa for her work, her heart, love of her family, love of...

I've been looking at the slide show for over an hour — grinning to beat the band until the last few pictures and now feeling such sadness, such love and respect for you all as a family. I honor Lisa for her work, her heart, love of her family, love of adventures and knowledge. I honor you all for so many of those same things and most of all how you are so very present for each other and how you were present for Lisa. I think Carl Rogers coined the phrase “unconditional positive regard.” That's what I see you offering each other and what I have always experienced for myself. My condolences to each one of you and my congratulations to Victor and Lisa for raising an incredibly bright, beautiful and loving group of children and their role of being a part of the lives of grandchildren. I did download several photos to share and keep in my own memory box and I hope that this poem may help with your continuing journey.
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Posted by Barbara Hoggatt (guest) on Fri 23 Apr 2010 12:56:59 PM PDT

Dear loving family of Lisa's

Lisa was an inspiration to all whom knew her. She will be missed by all of us (and you). May you keep her loving memory alive as long as you live. The album you have made in her memory is lovely. May God Bless you each and every one and bring...

Lisa was an inspiration to all whom knew her. She will be missed by all of us (and you). May you keep her loving memory alive as long as you live. The album you have made in her memory is lovely. May God Bless you each and every one and bring Happiness and Prosperity to you. Sincerely and with Love, Bev Martin.

Posted by Beverley Martin (guest) on Sat 03 Apr 2010 09:01:35 AM PDT

Wishing you well

Dear Victor, So sorry for your loss. I know you were a very devoted husband and caretaker for Lisa, and I hope you can take some consolation from that. Dr Fred Heidrich

Posted by Fred Heidrich (guest) on Fri 12 Mar 2010 05:07:22 PM PST

Your 62^nd Birthday

Hi Mom, Today is the 62^nd anniversary of your coming into the world. (Or as Dad liked to point out, your Chinese 63^rd birthday because they traditionally count birth from conception.) For the first time since your...

Hi Mom, Today is the 62^nd anniversary of your coming into the world. (Or as Dad liked to point out, your Chinese 63^rd birthday because they traditionally count birth from conception.) For the first time since your burial, Dad and I will visit your grave. I don't know if it is appropriate (or even makes sense) to wish you a "Happy Birthday", since I expect you are already happy and perhaps no longer reckoning time in days, but I will anyway. It makes me feel better to say it even if linguistically it is a no-op. I love you, and happy birthday, Mom. --Your Son Ben

Posted by Ben (guest) on Tue 09 Mar 2010 12:27:57 PM PST

Thank you's and condolences

To Lisa, I am forever thankful for the legacy you have left. May your kindness, strength, and character continue flowing in the hearts of all those you have touched. May you rest in peace. To the Wong Family, Vega and I send our condolences. You...

To Lisa, I am forever thankful for the legacy you have left. May your kindness, strength, and character continue flowing in the hearts of all those you have touched. May you rest in peace. To the Wong Family, Vega and I send our condolences. You are all in our thoughts. With much peace, love, and hugs, M&V

Posted by Mala Nagarajan (and Vega Subramaniam) (guest) on Mon 08 Mar 2010 04:50:41 AM PST

Memory Eternal

On behalf of my family, and the memory of my father, Gust Rakus, we sincerely extend our sincerest condolences to the family of Lisa Wong. May Her Memory be Eternal--"Eimoniamas" thomas rakus, seattle [Copied from legacy.com by Ben Wong]

Posted by Thomas Rakus (guest) on Sat 06 Mar 2010 03:28:50 AM PST

I would have liked to have met her

Victor, I am sorry for your and the families loss, I would have liked to have met her, some other time, by what you have shared here she's a special woman with a lot of love around her, that is a blessing. My prayers and love go out to you and...

Victor, I am sorry for your and the families loss, I would have liked to have met her, some other time, by what you have shared here she's a special woman with a lot of love around her, that is a blessing. My prayers and love go out to you and your family. Please be safe, and call me. Your Friend, John E. Pearson

Posted by John E. Pearson (guest) on Thu 04 Mar 2010 08:24:35 PM PST

Love to Lisa Wong's family

Thank you so much for the beautiful photographs and stories of Lisa Wong. It was lovely to hear about a person that brought so much to the world, including some of our favorite people! Our hearts and thoughts are with you all. Love, Jim, Lucy, Bella...

Thank you so much for the beautiful photographs and stories of Lisa Wong. It was lovely to hear about a person that brought so much to the world, including some of our favorite people! Our hearts and thoughts are with you all. Love, Jim, Lucy, Bella and Corey Jean

Posted by Corey H (guest) on Wed 03 Mar 2010 04:15:23 PM PST

My deepest wishes and condolences to the Wong family

Dear Victor and Family, Thank you victor for all of your kindness and generosity you have showed me over the years. Your outgoing presence has brought so many people together in more ways then you can imagine. It saddens me deeply to hear the one you...

Dear Victor and Family, Thank you victor for all of your kindness and generosity you have showed me over the years. Your outgoing presence has brought so many people together in more ways then you can imagine. It saddens me deeply to hear the one you shared so much with has passed on. May the beautiful memories of past experiences comfort you all in this time. If there is anything I can do please don't hesitate to ask, even if it is simply a cup of tea.

Posted by Jeffrey M (guest) on Wed 03 Mar 2010 11:43:36 AM PST

To Lisa's family

Thank you all for the sacred opportunity to look through these photos, attend the services, and hear your stories of this remarkable woman. It has been a gift to witness your love for Lisa and to share in her life through yours. Our hearts ache with ...

Thank you all for the sacred opportunity to look through these photos, attend the services, and hear your stories of this remarkable woman. It has been a gift to witness your love for Lisa and to share in her life through yours. Our hearts ache with you in your loss. The Kinard family, blessed with the friendship of J.T., Mike, Nick, and Robin

Posted by Jennifer (guest) on Wed 03 Mar 2010 12:35:51 AM PST

Warm wishes

Looking through the photos here of Lisa's trip to Spain and Africa, I thought of the beautiful Bob Dylan song, "If You See Her, Say Hello." "If you see her, say hello/She might be in Tangier/She left here last early spring/Is living there, I...

Looking through the photos here of Lisa's trip to Spain and Africa, I thought of the beautiful Bob Dylan song, "If You See Her, Say Hello." "If you see her, say hello/She might be in Tangier/She left here last early spring/Is living there, I hear." Lisa, I can see you were someone special, with a great brain and a great heart. Sending love and support to your whole family, Clarissa

Posted by Clarissa (guest) on Tue 02 Mar 2010 07:09:21 AM PST

Lisa and me

Thank you, Lisa. For listening to my story, and for telling yours. For loving the untamed wildness of my cottage garden. For 'just sitting and taking delight in'. For the beautiful Chinese teas that are still in my tea cupboard. For the love you...

Thank you, Lisa. For listening to my story, and for telling yours. For loving the untamed wildness of my cottage garden. For 'just sitting and taking delight in'. For the beautiful Chinese teas that are still in my tea cupboard. For the love you have for your family, the acceptance. For our sharing of Minnesang - songs of love from the Middle Ages in German Literature. For your faith and hope and compassion. For your living in the moment. "Ez stuont ein frouwe alleine und warte uber heide und waret ire liebe, so gesach si valken fliegen." "There's a woman standing alone. She's waiting above the desert. She's waiting for her love, so the flight of the falcon is telling her." Lisa, you found love. Elizabeth.

Posted by Elizabeth (guest) on Tue 02 Mar 2010 12:35:30 AM PST

I've been thinking of you

I'm so sorry for your loss...I would have written sooner, but I've been at a loss for words, as Wendy can attest. You have a wonderfully warm and intelligent family, Ben, and you yourself are wonderful person. What you all have--that's an indelible ...

I'm so sorry for your loss...I would have written sooner, but I've been at a loss for words, as Wendy can attest. You have a wonderfully warm and intelligent family, Ben, and you yourself are wonderful person. What you all have--that's an indelible mark your mother's left on the world.

Posted by Jeff E (guest) on Mon 01 Mar 2010 08:24:23 PM PST

God Bless the Wong Family

May God bless all of you, console you and fill you with sweetness and joy at the memories of your beloved Lisa, now enveloped in Love. Thank you to Victor and his family for all their love and friendship and inspiration.

Posted by George (guest) on Mon 01 Mar 2010 03:22:16 PM PST

Farewell, Lisa

Hi, everyone. I came to know Lisa when she participated in the JustFaith program that I was facilitating here at St. James. She was a wonderful addition to the group -- so intelligent, insightful, honest and caring. She really lived her faith,...

Hi, everyone. I came to know Lisa when she participated in the JustFaith program that I was facilitating here at St. James. She was a wonderful addition to the group -- so intelligent, insightful, honest and caring. She really lived her faith, especially in how she responded to the challenges of her illness. Life for her was always an adventure to be lived and explored, and that included her struggle with cancer -- she accepted her illness and dying with a true sense of faith and awe. My prayer for Lisa is from the words of committal from the Catholic funeral rite: "May the angels lead you to paradise, may the choirs of angels welcome you, and where Lazarus is poor no longer may you have eternal rest." Patty

Posted by Patty Bowman (guest) on Mon 01 Mar 2010 12:56:11 PM PST

My Deepest Sympathy and Prayers

To the Family of Lisa Wong, My Deepest Sympathy and Prayers are with you at this sad time. I enjoyed meeting her when she was here in Goshen. Carla Wood

Posted by Carla Wood (guest) on Mon 01 Mar 2010 11:12:07 AM PST

Our Condolence to you and your family

Dear Victor, My old friend, the love and care Lisa brought to the Wong family, the education and nurture she impart to your children are impressive achievements of a Mother and Wife. Our deepest condolence to you and your loving family for...

Dear Victor, My old friend, the love and care Lisa brought to the Wong family, the education and nurture she impart to your children are impressive achievements of a Mother and Wife. Our deepest condolence to you and your loving family for losing Lisa. But, we are relieved to know Lisa is now in the hand of the Lord. Louie and Pat

Posted by Louie & Pat Tam (guest) on Mon 01 Mar 2010 10:57:29 AM PST

Prayers for all of the Family

It is a great loss to everyone, we know, in Lisa's death. Her smile was amazing and we are grateful for her warmth when first we met. It will be hard for all of you, but think how good it will be to have someone in heaven praying for us through the...

It is a great loss to everyone, we know, in Lisa's death. Her smile was amazing and we are grateful for her warmth when first we met. It will be hard for all of you, but think how good it will be to have someone in heaven praying for us through the next many years.

Posted by Paul & Kathleen Helbling (guest) on Mon 01 Mar 2010 10:24:24 AM PST

Mass on Sunday

Dear Mom, I went to Mass today (well, technically yesterday; you know my sleep schedule). This is the first time I've been to the cathedral without you. My friend Wendy came along for support, we sat together in the pew that you and I usually shared. ...

Dear Mom, I went to Mass today (well, technically yesterday; you know my sleep schedule). This is the first time I've been to the cathedral without you. My friend Wendy came along for support, we sat together in the pew that you and I usually shared. It's hard for me to be dancing these familiar Roman Catholic steps (dip, cross, bow, kneel, genuflect, dosey-doe) without you. Every tiny bit of the service reminds me of you and of things that I have to remember to tell you when I see you next and of the fact that I have to remember that I won't be "seeing you next". At least, not on Earth.

I think you would have loved the powerful and unique way the alternate-pastor (it wasn't Father Ryan) raised his arms when blessing the church. His arms swooshed and unfurled. It made me think of a radio-antenna broadcasting out of his palms, especially when he rotated to be sure to get all of us. I would have looked forward to hearing what you thought about that. It was always so good to explore questions of Catholicism and philosophy with you. Does the positioning of the hands affect the blessing, what about the distance of the priest from parishoner? God clearly likes to use His materials on earth to do His work, so why is it that sometimes we can be blessed by a gesture rather than oils, ashes, or smoke? What about the "proper form" and "proper matter" you were telling me about, or does that only apply to the Eucharist?

Ah, well. Fun to think about, but I suppose you may already know the answers by now and I'll know them all too soon when I catch up with you. Well, hopefully, not too soon. Not that I don't want to see you, I've just got some stuff to finish up here. In particular, I've got to get to sleep now. I'll be visiting your body soon to wash it and dress it and to pray over you in the way you would have wanted.

I loved you so much and I still do, --Ben

Posted by Ben (guest) on Mon 01 Mar 2010 03:19:51 AM PST

Sad, Condolences...

Dear Koko Victor, With heartfelt condolences to you and your family. May you find comfort on those beautiful memories you shared with Lisa. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

Posted by Juliet Wong (guest) on Mon 01 Mar 2010 01:36:45 AM PST

Condolences and love

Clan Wong, I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I have random, funny little memories of Lisa that now suggest how attuned she was to both my more superficial pleasures (the time she bought us all blackberry wine coolers!) and my serious aspirations (the ...

Clan Wong, I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I have random, funny little memories of Lisa that now suggest how attuned she was to both my more superficial pleasures (the time she bought us all blackberry wine coolers!) and my serious aspirations (the time she mailed me information on a local writers' colony, when I was still working towards my degree). How generous of her, to take an interest in my dreams! I'm grateful for that, and for her always making me feel welcome in your home, in years past. I wish you all peace, and hope your own memories will comfort you in the days to come. You all are in my thoughts.

Posted by Kim Douglas (guest) on Sun 28 Feb 2010 10:14:33 PM PST

Our hearts are with you

Victor and family, Although we never got to know Lisa, we are deeply saddened to learn of your loss. The web-site helps us know what a special and loving person she was. Thank you for sharing her memories with us.

Posted by Wanda, Mark, Brian, and Andrea (guest) on Sun 28 Feb 2010 07:58:30 PM PST

The Beautiful memories you shared

Dear Victor, We are very sad for the loss of your beloved wife, Lisa. May the beautiful memories you shared comfort you and give you strength to cope during this difficult time. We are here if you need any help. With deepest sympathy, ...

Dear Victor, We are very sad for the loss of your beloved wife, Lisa. May the beautiful memories you shared comfort you and give you strength to cope during this difficult time. We are here if you need any help. With deepest sympathy, See Bon, Stacey with Rebecca & family and Benny & Family

Posted by The See Bon Family (guest) on Sun 28 Feb 2010 05:10:40 PM PST

Our Deepest Condolences

Dear Koko Victor, We know how sad you must feel losing Lisa. We feel sad for you and your family also. We hope that you will be comforted by the thoughts, love and prayers from us and all who care about you. Love, Mike and Polly

Posted by Mike and Polly (guest) on Sat 27 Feb 2010 10:46:43 PM PST

Thank you, Lisa, & Blessings!

Dear Lisa, I am so blessed to have crossed paths with you, and to have been so welcomed as to truly share in one anothers' lives. I think someone else said it already, but it's true a zillion times over - your care, guidance, and example were...

Dear Lisa, I am so blessed to have crossed paths with you, and to have been so welcomed as to truly share in one anothers' lives. I think someone else said it already, but it's true a zillion times over - your care, guidance, and example were gifts for everyone, and you left behind such brilliant, compassionate, shining stars, your Wong family, I'm sure sparks in all who you knew, and in many others ways your presence seemed to touch people profoundly and also ripple on and on. I think it is a true gift to live in a way that makes this impact, and in a manner so accepting and inclusive. I will remember and be inspired by your Love, your interest in all living things big and small, your wonder and laughter about the zaniness of the universe, your dedication to and growth through reading and learning, your care and concern about those in need, your commitment to being a guide and teacher, your ability to be who you were and how you felt, your ability to hold multiple truths, and your infinite gratitude for all that you were blessed with. I wish I had known you for longer, but am glad to have touched one another's lives. Thank you, Lisa, Devon

Posted by Devon (guest) on Sat 27 Feb 2010 02:25:13 PM PST

Father Ryan

Mom, I saw Father Ryan the other day. He apologized for not being able to be there for your funeral mass as he'll be in Cork (oddly appropriate). He said Father Ignatius Ohno is a good substitute as they are quite sympatico (if you'll pardon...

Mom, I saw Father Ryan the other day. He apologized for not being able to be there for your funeral mass as he'll be in Cork (oddly appropriate). He said Father Ignatius Ohno is a good substitute as they are quite sympatico (if you'll pardon his Italian). I figured you'd have approved if only because you would have loved the name, which is so marvelous it verges on pseudonominous. Father Ryan, with that smile we knew him for, also said, "I am sure she will attain heaven, because if she can't, we stand no chance." By the way, I didn't get a chance to bring up our gripes with the theologically misguided homily he gave a couple Sundays ago. If you get a chance, please ask Christ if Father Ryan's words were a valid, if unwise, reinterpretation of His words. Love, Your Son, Ben

Posted by Ben Wong (guest) on Sat 27 Feb 2010 12:25:54 AM PST

UW Philosophy Grads Remember Lisa

Ben, I'm very sorry to hear about your mom's passing. I enjoyed knowing her all those many years ago in the UW Philosophy department and will always remember her fondly for her intelligence and wit. I regret that I have obligations next Tuesday that...

Ben, I'm very sorry to hear about your mom's passing. I enjoyed knowing her all those many years ago in the UW Philosophy department and will always remember her fondly for her intelligence and wit. I regret that I have obligations next Tuesday that will keep me from her funeral but I will be there in spirit and I wish you and your family my heartfelt condolences. Sincerely, Bob Crimmins

Posted by Bob Crimmins (UW classmate) (guest) on Fri 26 Feb 2010 01:24:29 PM PST

Hope looks up - toward tomorrow.

We have good memories of visiting with you in both Indiana and Washington. Lisa, as a cousin, you hold a special place in our hearts. Our sympathy goes out to all the family; but we truly believe that God shall wipe away all tears. Let's look ...

We have good memories of visiting with you in both Indiana and Washington. Lisa, as a cousin, you hold a special place in our hearts. Our sympathy goes out to all the family; but we truly believe that God shall wipe away all tears. Let's look forward to eternity when we all shall meet again. Agape.

Posted by Esther & Phil Mishler (guest) on Thu 25 Feb 2010 05:25:08 AM PST

I Love You

Dear Mom, I love you so much, Mom. I know you are here with me. I know that your love is with us and in us. I know that I breathe because of you. I know my children will breathe because of you. And I know that your breath is in our breath.

Dear Mom, I love you so much, Mom. I know you are here with me. I know that your love is with us and in us. I know that I breathe because of you. I know my children will breathe because of you. And I know that your breath is in our breath.

I want to celebrate you, Mom. I want to tell the world about you. And I want to live your example every day.

Mom, I will be open-hearted and open-minded like you. I will be loving and generous like you. I will be playful and wonder-full like you. I will think big thoughts and small thoughts like you. I will love every moment and love every moment like you. I will care for my father like you. I will care for my family like you. I will care for cats, dogs, animals, and plants, like you. I will care for my children like you. I will care for this planet and this life like you.

Mom - you are inside of me, inside of all your children, just as we were inside of you. And you are in all things. In each life you touched and made better, in the flowers and the leaves, in the animals you've loved. You are in us and in everything. Your spirit is here. I love you.

Posted by Alan (guest) on Wed 24 Feb 2010 10:19:48 PM PST

Awesome website

Dear Uncle Victor & Cousins, I extend my condolences during this time. The memories of Auntie Lisa you've shared together display her character. I wish I could have known her better. Hugs!

Posted by Jennifer Wong (guest) on Wed 24 Feb 2010 08:59:16 PM PST

Savery

Thanks for sending a message to philgrad, Ben. I had the pleasure of sharing a cubicle in Savery with your mom ... and about a 100 medieval logic books ... and an even greater number of overhead marker pens she'd stockpiled in a desk drawer. These...

Thanks for sending a message to philgrad, Ben. I had the pleasure of sharing a cubicle in Savery with your mom ... and about a 100 medieval logic books ... and an even greater number of overhead marker pens she'd stockpiled in a desk drawer. These wonderful pictures and touching comments bring back great memories.

Posted by Paul Glezen (guest) on Wed 24 Feb 2010 07:40:29 PM PST

Rainbows

Dear Uncle Victor, Jen, Dave, Greg, Ben, and Alan, My heart goes out to you all. I am so glad that I got to spend time with Aunt Lisa over the years. She had a vivacious spirit that lives on in all of you. Wishing I could be with you. Will try to...

Dear Uncle Victor, Jen, Dave, Greg, Ben, and Alan, My heart goes out to you all. I am so glad that I got to spend time with Aunt Lisa over the years. She had a vivacious spirit that lives on in all of you. Wishing I could be with you. Will try to see if I can travel up there soon. big hug, Tina

Posted by Tina Wong (guest) on Wed 24 Feb 2010 04:02:16 PM PST

thank you for sharing

Thanks to you all for sharing these photos and memories with us. We are sending many heartfelt wishes across the alley to your entire family for comfort in this difficult time. Let us know if there is anything we can do. Louis and Ellen

Posted by Ellen Schur (guest) on Wed 24 Feb 2010 09:41:05 AM PST

Lisa

Victor, my dearest friend. I'm extremely saddened by the news. My deepest condolences goes to you and your family. Having a similar loss not long ago, I know how it feels! You can always count on me for support.

Posted by Haluk Bekiroglu (guest) on Wed 24 Feb 2010 05:42:16 AM PST

We Had Some Good Times!

Mom, I've just uploaded a couple-dozen photos I took of you to this site. After finishing, I realized that all of them were taken from only one year: 2008. Did you and I really hang out together on three continents that year? That was a good one. ...

Mom, I've just uploaded a couple-dozen photos I took of you to this site. After finishing, I realized that all of them were taken from only one year: 2008. Did you and I really hang out together on three continents that year? That was a good one. But now I've got to get around to uploading all those other years. More to come...

Love,

David

Posted by David (guest) on Wed 24 Feb 2010 03:50:56 AM PST

You are in our thoughts...

We are saddened by the news. We find comfort in knowing that you have been surrounded by love during your final years. Our prayers are with you and the entire family. Love to all, The Shelby Family

Posted by Jocelyn Shelby (guest) on Tue 23 Feb 2010 11:12:07 PM PST

Always so kind and funny ...

... Lisa, you once sent me a St. Patrick's Day card with a picture of St. Pat driving a big green car full of snakes right out of Ireland. I kept that card for years because it always made me laugh out loud. Love you always, Kristin

Posted by Kristin (guest) on Tue 23 Feb 2010 11:06:34 PM PST

The Lord gives, the Lord takes away, Blessed be the name of the Lord

I never forgot how you welcomed me warmly into your home when I first arrived in Seattle. We share the same blessed hope when we shall see our Savior, Jesus Christ, and each other again in the presence of God.

Posted by David and Nancy (guest) on Tue 23 Feb 2010 10:56:47 PM PST

Thinking of you...

To Uncle Victor, Cousins & Family- I just want to say that Auntie Lisa & you all are in my thoughts & prayers. And thanks to Ben for setting up this memorial website! -Love, Cindy

Posted by Cindy Wong (guest) on Tue 23 Feb 2010 10:00:41 PM PST

Memories

Lisa, Your passing is a loss to everyone who knew you, who knows you, and who should have met you. I always got such a great vibe from you and your family and your welcoming heart was so special. Hanging out with you at Savery with Ben was...

Lisa, Your passing is a loss to everyone who knew you, who knows you, and who should have met you. I always got such a great vibe from you and your family and your welcoming heart was so special. Hanging out with you at Savery with Ben was always a kick on the old MAX and MAVEN. At the same time I feel sad that I'll never attend a Bogglefest with you or run into you on the Ave again, you have left on Earth some of the best people I've ever met. I feel that I'm saying goodbye to a lot of folks lately, but I'm comforted more and more that we leave pieces of ourselves everywhere. I see them here and there in your kids, grand kids, and in everyone you've touched. And I hope we can keep on doing you proud. Love you and peace be with you and your family, Gene

Posted by Gene (guest) on Tue 23 Feb 2010 05:42:29 PM PST

Thinking of you

Hi Ben, I am sorry for your loss. You and your mom are in my thoughts. Amy

Posted by Amy H (guest) on Tue 23 Feb 2010 02:02:00 PM PST

favorite Lisa memory!

Non-sequetir: I'm listening to Howard Stern describe "black Jesus." He says Jesus is a black man and that he has a necklace made out of shells. Lisa, is this true? Anyway! Right now my favorite memory of Lisa is going to Olympia Pizza with her and...

Non-sequetir: I'm listening to Howard Stern describe "black Jesus." He says Jesus is a black man and that he has a necklace made out of shells. Lisa, is this true? Anyway! Right now my favorite memory of Lisa is going to Olympia Pizza with her and Dave on 15th Ave right before one of her appointments at Group Health. Dave is the king of "getting over," and they were reminiscing over some instances of such. Lisa would laugh as though she'd never heard the stories before, although she clearly had every nuance memorized. The fun was hearing how her son had, once again, gotten over on some person or establishment, like the hero of an Aesop's fable. I always liked the story Dave would tell of his flag-burning incident at Garfield, over which he was expelled in his senior year with the right to graduate. From what I remember, he complained to Lisa over the unfairness of it all, since he was just exercising his right to free speech. Lisa put it all in perspective: "do you really *want* to go back to Garfield? Think about it! They're going to LET YOU GRADUATE AS LONG AS YOU DON'T COME BACK TO SCHOOL." Clearly, she appreciated the talents of her Number One Son! I know Lisa's children and her grandchildren were her biggest joys. You all should be proud you brought her so much happiness. I'm happy to see so much love on this site--great job putting it together, Ben. I'll watch this space for details on the service.

Posted by Phyllis (guest) on Tue 23 Feb 2010 01:59:39 PM PST

Thank You For Being You

Dear Lisa, You were such a warm, loving & calm presence in all of our lives. Thanks for being such a wonderful, caring, beautiful, smart and fun person. I know that you live on in spirit. But I will miss you on this side of the curtain. Hopefully...

Dear Lisa, You were such a warm, loving & calm presence in all of our lives. Thanks for being such a wonderful, caring, beautiful, smart and fun person. I know that you live on in spirit. But I will miss you on this side of the curtain. Hopefully snuggly memories of you will comfort all of us somewhat. I'll always keep thinking of you, talking to you and saying hi. Love always, Wendy P.S. I am sending all of the Wong family a lot of love and prayers.

Posted by Wendy A Wywrot (guest) on Tue 23 Feb 2010 01:38:26 PM PST

Sad

Hi Ben So sorry for your loss. I can't imagine what you must be going through. My prayers are with you and your family. Love Susan (Robkin)

Posted by Susan (guest) on Tue 23 Feb 2010 01:29:55 PM PST

Miss You Very Much and Love Always

My Dearest Beloved Honey

Posted by Victor (guest) on Tue 23 Feb 2010 12:52:06 PM PST

Thanks so much.

Thank you Lisa for all your support you have given Greg, myself, and the kids. We will miss you tons. L

Posted by Louise (guest) on Tue 23 Feb 2010 12:36:26 PM PST

I can't think

I can't think of anything to say, but I'm sorry, and I'll miss you too.

Posted by Clarica (guest) on Tue 23 Feb 2010 12:31:55 PM PST

Rest in Peace, Lisa

- Ben & the Graham family

Posted by Guest on Tue 23 Feb 2010 11:22:08 AM PST

Thank you, Lisa

Without you, I would have never met my tech support guy, Ben. A great Linux guru and an even greater friend.

Posted by Todd Tollefson (guest) on Tue 23 Feb 2010 11:13:51 AM PST

Dear Mom,

I love you so much, Mom. I miss you, but like I told you before, I'm never going to stop talking to you. Someday, we'll meet again. Love, Your Son, Benjamin

Posted by Gallery Administrator on Tue 23 Feb 2010 07:48:03 AM PST

Thank you

Thank you, Lisa, for a beautiful family and a beautiful life. Love, ~Mike

Posted by Mike (guest) on Tue 23 Feb 2010 07:30:38 AM PST

Love and miss you!

Mom - we love you and miss you so much. I am so glad that Myhanh, Mai Linh and Tai got to experience the warmth and love of their naai-naai. You will always live on in them, and us.

Posted by Grishka (guest) on Mon 22 Feb 2010 10:30:35 PM PST

Shout-out to the other side

Love you Mom!

Posted by Jen (guest) on Mon 22 Feb 2010 09:09:17 PM PST